152) ... فبما رحمه من الله لنت لهم

... أنا أكره القسوة

فإنها من أسوأ الصفات .. وهي من أسوأ العادات .. ولتعبير أكثر دقة .. دعوني أقول

! .. ليس أسوأ من اعتياد القسوة

! .. فلماذا القسوة

والأسوأ .. والأسوأ .. إذا جاءت من أقرب الناس .. من أغلي الناس .. من أحب الناس

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"فَبِمَا رَحْمَةٍ مِنَ اللَّهِ لِنْتَ لَهُمْ ۖ وَلَوْ كُنْتَ فَظًّا غَلِيظَ الْقَلْبِ لَانْفَضُّوا مِنْ حَوْلِكَ ۖ فَاعْفُ عَنْهُمْ وَاسْتَغْفِرْ لَهُمْ وَشَاوِرْهُمْ فِي الْأَمْرِ ۖ فَإِذَا عَزَمْتَ فَتَوَكَّلْ عَلَى اللَّهِ ۚ إِنَّ اللَّهَ يُحِبُّ الْمُتَوَكِّلِينَ"

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صلي الله علي محمد .. صلي الله عليه وسلم

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141) Different Christmas Time!

I wish if I could feel the Christmas spirit that comes every year with positive wishes and peace... but what I have experienced this year is completely different; my Christians colleagues (the majority but not all of them) totally avoid any communication with me just because I am Muslim since this terrible accident... never to say even good morning... I really don't know what did I do wrong? I never tried to bother or hurt one of them not even with a very small word or gesture. We used to have a reciprocal love and respect to each other for years, fa ma32oula one week is capable of doing all that... and destroying all what we have built in years!

Yesterday, before leaving the office, I thought about just leaving quietly without saying a word; neither Merry Christmas nor even goodbye... but it didnt feel right. I wanted to say at least something to them; ya3ni it seemed so unkind to simply vanish keda... but it was nearly impossible too to get through the risk, le2eno I couldn't imagine their reaction.

Elmohem, I finally did. I said it; Merry Christmas... and actually it was a heavy thing to find no answer :( ... tab leih, begad leih?

P.s. This was my own experience, but there is no ta3mim. and again, Merry Christmas anyway.
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131) :) فاستريحي .. فاستريحي .. فاستريحي ..

"With a woman he's crazy about, he'll put in all the overtime in the world. He'll be doing things for you, he'll be considerate, he'll want to please you, he'll try to cheer you up if you are down, and he will enjoy every moment because you are the person he values most."

- Sherry Argov

فاستريحي .. فاستريحي .. فاستريحي ..

106) ... KINDNESS ...

"Guard well within yourself that treasure: KINDNESS.
Know,
How to give without hesitation...
How to lose without regret...
How to acquire without *meanness*."
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This is one of my favourite quotes. I just don’t like it, but I do believe in it too. I hope you like it as I do...
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102) For A Better Tomorrow :: 6 - Ramadan is capable of changing a person's whole life!

A writer once said that it is not time that changes man/woman, nor knowledge. The only thing that can change someone's mind is love. The person who wrote that clearly knew what is going in both my mind & heart. Love [was/is/will be always and forever] the only thing capable of changing a person's whole life, from one moment to the next...

I once made a mistake - since then, I have learned that if there is no struggle, there is no progress. and I have realized that sometimes you get no second chance and that it's best to accept the gift Allah's offers you and change your mind. Because we will die. But before we die, we should fight for life - and yet one never knows what life may have in store for us. Ramadan is Allah's gift to us. Ramadan is that chance. Ramadan is love. and it brings love because we will never find what we are looking for without love [with all its ways]...

اللهم إنك عفو تحب العفو فاعفو عنا

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93) Good Girlfriend But Bad Mother :/

You can meet girls who seem to be perfect from all aspects; she is beautiful, sexy, lovable, smart, and has a career... But does this mean she will be perfect mother? and what are the signs she will be good or bad mother?!

P.S. Women are different. and if they fall in love, they can change their way of thinking. But better not to take the risk when it’s too late. Some signs can help you.

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66) Do you appreciate beautiful things?

She is an old lady. Left alone in a big house with her French antiques, and her memories. Was starving for a little recognition. She had once been young and beautiful. She had once built a house warm with love. and had collected things from over Europe to make it beautiful. Now, in the isolated loneliness of old age, she craved a little human warmth, a little genuine appreciation - and no one gave it to her...

Suddenly, she found it, like a spring in the desert. A young man looked around the house to see what he could honestly admire and said:

- ” This house was built about 1890, wasn’t it?”

- “ Yes. that is precisely the year it was built.”- she replied

- “It reminds me of the house I was born in. It’s beautiful. Well built. Roomy. You know, they don’t built houses like this anymore.”

- “You’re right.” - the old lady agreed with a smile on her face. “This is a dream house.”- she said in a voice vibrating with tender memories. This house was built with love. My husband and I dreamed about it for years before we built it. We didn’t have an architect. We planned it all ourselves.”

She showed the young man about the house, and he expressed his hearty admiration for the beautiful treasures she had picked up in her travels. and cherished over a lifetime - an old English tea set. Wedgwood China. French beds and chairs. Italian paintings...

After showing him through the house, she took him out to the garage and said softly:” My husband bought that car for me shortly before he passed on. I have never ridden in it since his death . . . You appreciate nice things. and I am going to give this car to you.”

- He said:” Why, aunty? You overwhelm me. I appreciate your generosity; but I couldn’t possibly accept it. I’m not even a relative of yours.

- She said: Yes. I have relatives who are just waiting till I die so they can get that car. But they are not going to get it. Simply because they don’t appreciate beautiful things.”

- “if you don’t want to give it to them. khalas. you can easily sell it to a secondhand dealer.”

- “ Do you think I could stand to see strangers riding up down the street in that car?! I’m going to give it to you. You appreciate beautiful things.”

So...

Do You Appreciate Beautiful Things?

and if you were in his place, would you accept such an expensive gift, just because you appreciate beautiful things? 3allel ...

63) Why Women Went Insane!

I think nobody knows why women went insane. Nobody knows for sure. But apparently, women who go insane find a feeling keda that they were unable to achieve in the world of reality!
My cousin once told me that she has a patient whose marriage proved to be a tragedy.
She wanted:

a) Love - To love and to be loved in return.
b) Respect - Reciprocal.
C) Understanding.
d) Sexual Gratification.
e) Children.
f) Social Prestige.

But life blasted all her hopes.

a) Her husband didn’t love her.
b) No Respect.
C) Mafish Understanding!
d) He refused even to eat with her.
e) She had no children :( !
f) No Social Standing.

She went insane! and in her imagination she divorced her husband.
What I’m wondering begad is that she is much happier as she is!

61) Remember !

I tried to tell you, but you wouldn't listen

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59) A Difference in Treatment!

One evening I was sitting in the kitchen with my lovely nephew -Amr- and after a brief discussion of something that was in his mind, Amoura said:” Nouna, I know that you love me very much”.
I was touched and said:” Of course ya habibi, I love you very much. Did you doubt it?
He responded: “NO. But I really know you love me because whenever I want to talk to you about something you stop whatever you are doing and listen to me...
I made it my business to listen carefully when one of my family or friends want to speak with me.

... Listening is just as important in one’s home life as in the world of business. Exclusive attention to the person who is speaking to you is very important. Nothing else is so flattering as that.

57) Ooh Men...!!

Some of the problems with GUYS:

If you treat him nicely - he says you are in love with him;
If you don’t - he says you are proud.
If you argue with him - he says you are stubborn;
If you keep quiet - he says you have no brains.
If you are smarter than him - he’ll lose face;
If he is smarter than you - he is great!
If you don’t love him - he tries to possess you;
If you love him - he will try to leave you!
If you tell him your problem - he says you are troublesome;
If you don’t - he says that you don’t trust him.
If you break your promise - you cannot be trusted;
If he breaks his - he is forced to do so...
If you do well in your work - he says it’s luck;
If he does well - it’s brains.
If you hurt him - You are cruel!
If he HURTS you - you are SENSITIVE!!! uufff ba2a, I am SORRY!

(O men 3’eer nefs kaman)

Tab3an guys will swear that’s not true ...

Ooh Guys ... !

53) . . . GO . . . !

... Eye Contact's Power . . .

Look into my eyes and you will see clearly . . .
Cease to listen and you will hear truth . . .
Be silent and your heart will sing . . .
Seek no contact and you will find union . . .
Be still and you will move forward on the tide of spirit . . .
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At the moment when our eyes are locked in silent communication, we are in essence, touching . . .

52) Find Your Peace!

She is able who thinks she is able...
I can add not only the red color but all colors to the black & white life. With my own special brush -my feelings- I can add green, white, yellow...!
‘Love’ is a little word. Yes - The difference is that I can make it BIG!
I enjoy giving. and I can help you to find your peace. I even want to do with you what the spring does with the cherry trees... and I can help you to do the things you’d dreamed of for a long time.
Now, tell me, have you ever had the feeling, at certain moments in your life, that someone was observing what you were doing? and how did you know that?
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Have you ever had someone you loved stick in your mind? I know, it’s really terrible when that happens. You travel. You try to forget. But your second mind keeps saying:"Oh, if only..."
Look. if you’re in love with someone, you can have that person inside your head. OK. That's a nice feeling. Lovely. But the same thing happens with someone you want to forget about [simply bcoz it's over] But the second mind is a tough thing to deal with. it’s at work regardless of whether you want it to be or not :/
And here, exactly here; you need a help. And there is someone who paid attention to you and discovered what you have been missed. and ready to give you a caring hand in order to help you to control your second mind. and to look at horizon.
You miss the little things that add a big difference in your life- sometimes, they are the love words, the surprises, the sweet unexpected messages... and sometimes you need 7’abta 3ala dema3’ak to help you to get back to yourself and to understand that you are here, and that the things that surround you change you - in the same way you change them.
You have to live in the 'present'.. the ‘here’.. the ‘now’..
If you have someone who paid attention to you, then, you are lucky. So, don't ever say I have to be alone now. and if you already said it by one language or another, so, come back in two days...

49) The Power of Appreciation!

She asked her husband to help her by listing seven things he believed she could do to help her become a better wife.

He was surprised by such a request.

... He thought ... Frankly, it would have been easy for him to list seven things he would like to change about her - she could have listed a thousand things she would like to change about him bardo ... Well ... But he didn’t. and he said to her:” Let me think about it and give you an answer in the morning.”

The next morning he got up very early - very early - and called the florist and had them send seven red flowers to his wife and a note saying:” I can’t think of seven things I would like to change about you. I love you the way you are.”

:D

When he arrived at home that evening, who do you think greeted him at the door? That’s right. His wife!
She was almost in tears [tears of love.. tears of gratitude..]. Needless to say, he was extremely glad he had not criticized her as she had requested.
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That was the most considerate thing I have ever heard. It was then I realized the power of appreciation...

p.s. We should never forget that all our associates are human beings and hunger for appreciation. It is the legal tender that all souls enjoy.

48) Are You OK ?!

Are You OK ?
This is a very hard question for me. It’s not easy to show how I feel - Whether I am OK or . . .

Are You OK ?
People often ask this question - I know it’s good to be around people. Friends and family love us. and can help us - especially when we are down. But actually (on a second thought), not all of them... Some hurt us; in public! Some kill us, by words ... But al7amdulellah a least the rest of them can.
I just thought I could handle everything on my own. But I can’t! I realize that now.

Are You OK?
Every time someone asks me that question I say “I am fine. Thank You” and I smile like that :) No! I think I smile like that :] ... Well I don’t know. I smile O khalas!
But to be very honest, I am not OK!
Yes. Oh yes - I am not OK. I feel . . . I even can’t tell. Can’t imagine. Can’t believe.
So...
Do people really want to know how you feel when they ask “Are You OK ?”
Or ...
Are they just trying to be polite?

Are You OK ?
Oooh Allah! Things used to be different!
Didn’t any body understand what I was going through?
Tell me ... Don’t worry ...
I know you all know what I have been through. Yes . I know you all know! That’s blatantly obvious. But, you all don’t seem to understand that I am still going through it. (!!!)
and I have a million Why. Why. Why. Why. W... I didn’t do but good stuff. I don’t deserve such a cruel words. and I can’t just move on with my life like you are all doing, and pretend that nothing had happened. Because it hurts me. It’s difficult for me. He was my best hero. I told him some things that I would never told anyone else. and whenever I wanted to have fun, I went to him. I made many of his days. and I wanted to help him to get back to himself that he has been missed... Just because I have never met him doesn’t mean that I didn’t feel him. But also it doesn’t mean that I have to stop living! Yes - It’s difficult. Yes - It’s horrible. Yes - It’s the worst thing that has ever happened to me in my whole life. Let me repeat this again and again and again... Yes - It’s difficult. Yes - It’s horrible. Yes - It’s the worst thing that has ever happened to me in my whole life. What made the worse is that he didn’t even try to say sorry. and here I have an another why - When you realize you have made a mistake, why don’t you take immediate steps to correct it? Why didn't you try to understand me? Why didn't you ask what was going wrong with me? Why didn't you try to figure out why I did what I did? W ... ? tab howa ana astahel keda ?!

Are You OK ?
. . . Well, . . . I really do not know. So, to answer the question, I feel blessed - al7amdulellah. But I am not sure if I am OK.
I wish love and happiness and peeeace on everyone.

So...

Are You OK ?
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"There is always a truth behind just kidding.
There is always a little emotion behind I don’t care.
There is always a I need you behind leave me alone.
There is always a little pain behind it’s OK.
There is always a lot of words behind silence."

46) A Way to Understand Optimism!

I’m living like I’m dying.

No!

Let me rephrase that - I’m living like I’m dying. But at the same time I’m very much living like I’m still living.

It hurts me - Yes .

It’s difficult for me - Yes.
It’s horrible - Yes .
It’s the worst thing that have ever happened to me in my whole life! - Oh Yes ...
But, it doesn’t mean I have to stop living!
I can’t just give up!

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" Affliction comes to all not to make us sad, but sober.
Not to make us sorry, but wise.
Not to make us despondent, but its darkness to refresh us, as the night refreshes the day.
Not to impoverish, but to enrich us.
To . . . "

40) What A Terrible Thing!

What a Terrible Thing . . . !

Of all the ways we have found to hurt ourselves, the worst has been through love.
We are always suffering because of:

• Someone who doesn’t love us.
• Or Someone who has left us.
• Or Someone who won’t leave us . . . !!!

If we are alone, it’s because no one wants us.
If we are married, we transform the marriage to slavery.

....... What a terrible thing ....... !

36) Love Knows No Age. Love Knows Pink!

Love knows no age . . .

Charm knows no disability . . .

Love just IS . . .

Charm just IS . . .

In fact 50 is the new 30, and 60 is the new 40 ... No, am not kidding :) - If you're in your 20's, then you can enjoy your extended teen years because you're sooo far from being "old" that's not even on the horizon . . .

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* Love . Just love. Then … Take a good look around. Everything is flowery and pink. Pink ;)