124) In a relationship, married, or not ... Just read this!

When I got home that night as my wife served dinner, I held her hand and said, I've got something to tell you. She sat down and ate quietly. Again I observed the hurt in her eyes.

Suddenly I didn't know how to open my mouth. But I had to let her know what I was thinking. I want a divorce. I raised the topic calmly.
She didn't seem to be annoyed by my words, instead she asked me softly, why?

I avoided her question. This made her angry. She threw away the chopsticks and shouted at me, you are not a man! That night, we didn't talk to each other. She was weeping. I knew she wanted to find out what had happened to our marriage. But I could hardly give her a satisfactory answer; she had lost my heart to Jane. I didn't love her anymore. I just pitied her!

With a deep sense of guilt, I drafted a divorce agreement which stated that she could own our house, our car, and 30% stake of my company.
She glanced at it and then tore it into pieces. The woman who had spent ten years of her life with me had become a stranger. I felt sorry for her wasted time, resources and energy but I could not take back what I had said for I loved Jane so dearly. Finally she cried loudly in front of me, which was what I had expected to see. To me her cry was actually a kind of release. The idea of divorce which had obsessed me for several weeks seemed to be firmer and clearer now.

The next day, I came back home very late and found her writing something at the table. I didn't have supper but went straight to sleep and fell asleep very fast because I was tired after an eventful day with Jane.

When I woke up, she was still there at the table writing. I just did not care so I turned over and was asleep again.

In the morning she presented her divorce conditions: she didn't want anything from me, but needed a month's notice before the divorce. She requested that in that one month we both struggle to live as normal a life as possible. Her reasons were simple: our son had his exams in a month's time and she didn't want to disrupt him with our broken marriage.

This was agreeable to me. But she had something more, she asked me to recall how I had carried her into out bridal room on our wedding day.
She requested that every day for the month's duration I carry her out of our bedroom to the front door ever morning. I thought she was going crazy. Just to make our last days together bearable I accepted her odd request.

I told Jane about my wife's divorce conditions. . She laughed loudly and thought it was absurd. No matter what tricks she applies, she has to face the divorce, she said scornfully.

My wife and I hadn't had any body contact since my divorce intention was explicitly expressed. So when I carried her out on the first day, we both appeared clumsy. Our son clapped behind us, daddy is holding mommy in his arms. His words brought me a sense of pain. From the bedroom to the sitting room, then to the door, I walked over ten meters with her in my arms. She closed her eyes and said softly; don't tell our son about the divorce. I nodded, feeling somewhat upset. I put her down outsidethe door. She went to wait for the bus to work. I drove alone to the office.

On the second day, both of us acted much more easily. She leaned on my chest. I could smell the fragrance of her blouse. I realized that I hadn't looked at this woman carefully for a long time. I realized she was not young any more. There were fine wrinkles on her face, her hair was graying! Our marriage had taken its toll on her. For a minute I wondered what I had done to her.

On the fourth day, when I lifted her up, I felt a sense of intimacy returning. This was the woman who had given ten years of her life to me.
On the fifth and sixth day, I realized that our sense of intimacy was growing again. I didn't tell Jane about this. It became easier to carry her as the month slipped by. Perhaps the everyday workout made me stronger.

She was choosing what to wear one morning. She tried on quite a few dresses but could not find a suitable one. Then she sighed, all my dresses have grown bigger. I suddenly realized that she had grown so thin, that was the reason why I could carry her more easily.

Suddenly it hit me... she had buried so much pain and bitterness in her heart. Subconsciously I reached out and touched her head.

Our son came in at the moment and said, Dad, it's time to carry mom out. To him, seeing his father carrying his mother out had become an essential part of his life. My wife gestured to our son to come closer and hugged him tightly. I turned my face away because I was afraid I might change my mind at this last minute. I then held her in my arms, walking from the bedroom, through the sitting room, to the hallway. Her hand surrounded my neck softly and naturally. I held her body tightly; it was just like our wedding day.

But her much lighter weight made me sad. On the last day, when I held her in my arms I could hardly move a step. Our son had gone to school. I held her tightly and said, I hadn't noticed that our life lacked intimacy.
I drove to office.... jumped out of the car swiftly without locking the door. I was afraid any delay would make me change my mind...I walked upstairs. Jane opened the door and I said to her, Sorry, Jane, I do not want the divorce anymore.

She looked at me, astonished, and then touched my forehead. Do you have a fever? She said. I moved her hand off my head. Sorry, Jane, I said, I won't divorce. My marriage life was boring probably because she and I didn't value the details of our lives, not because we didn't love each other anymore. Now I realize that since I carried her into my home on our wedding day I am supposed to hold her until death do us apart.
Jane seemed to suddenly wake up. She gave me a loud slap and then slammed the door and burst into tears. I walked downstairs and drove away.

At the floral shop on the way, I ordered a bouquet of flowers for my wife. The salesgirl asked me what to write on the card. I smiled and wrote, I'll carry you out every morning until death do us apart.

That evening I arrived home, flowers in my hands, a smile on my face, I run up stairs, only to find my wife in the bed - dead.
My wife had been fighting CANCER for months and I was so busy with Jane to even notice. She knew that she would die soon and she wanted to save me from the whatever negative reaction from our son, in case we push thru with the divorce.-- At least, in the eyes of our son--- I'm a loving husband....

The small details of your lives are what really matter in a relationship. It is not the mansion, the car, property, the money in the bank. These create an environment conducive for happiness but cannot give happiness in themselves. So find time to be your spouse's friend and do those little things for each other that build intimacy. Do have a real happy marriage!

- Kimmies Floral

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Sometimes God give us diamond and we are too busy collecting stones! and when we finally know their value ... it's always too late and we lost all the chances God gave us to cherish the bless of the only true and unconditional love happened in our life!

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91) The Poison That Could be Saving Your Life!

When we hear chemo, we automatically think of hair loss, unfortunately there are many more serious side effects to the chemical nightmare that has proven so effective in fighting many types of cancers. Even though it’s important to know what kinds of side

effects to expect, it is equally important to remember that, no matter how devastating this all is, chemotherapy is still one of the most effective lines of cancer treatment to date.

Upset Stomach and Vomiting
One of the most common drawbacks of chemotherapy. Many of the drugs used in treatment sessions actually stimulate the chemoreceptor trigger zone of the brain - an area that controls the vomiting reflex. However, this can usually be controlled by taking anti-nausea drugs, drinking enough fluids, and avoiding spicy foods.

Diarrhoea or Loose Stools
It occurs during chemotherapy because the drugs affect the lining of the intestines. This chemotherapy reaction can last for a short period or intermittently throughout the duration of the treatment, depending on the drugs given and the dosage.

Mouth Sores
Because cells on the inside of the mouth are some of the fastest to regenerate in the body, they are the ones most susceptible to damage from chemotherapy. As a result, sores can develop, leading to possible infection and other problems such as irritation and dryness in the mouth and throat. Good oral hygiene is important during chemo. Rinse the mouth with saline, eat softer foods at or below room temperature and avoid hot and spicy foods.

Hair Loss
Not every chemotherapy program causes the patient to lose their hair. Certain people lose only their head hair, and others lose hair from all over their bodies. Like every other symptom, the visible results depend on the patient, the drug and the dosage. Hair loss won’t happen immediately and typically starts gradually, eventually escalating to hair coming out in larger clumps. It is one of the most dreaded chemotherapy effects, but it’s also usually temporary.

Anaemia and Fatigue
Low blood cell counts caused by the effect of chemotherapy on the bone marrow can lead to anaemia, infections, and easy bleeding and bruising. Patients with anaemia have too few red blood cells to deliver oxygen and nutrients to the body's tissues. Anaemic patients feel tired and weak. If red blood cell levels fall too low, a blood transfusion may be given.

Infections
Patients receiving chemotherapy are more likely to get infections. This happens because their infection fighting white blood cells are reduced. As a result their immunity becomes compromised and they become susceptible to infections. A doctor may prescribe medication to help white blood cells grow if the count drops too low.

Easy Bleeding and Bruising
Platelets are blood cells that make the blood clot. When patients do not have enough platelets, they may bleed or bruise easily, even from small injuries. Patients with low blood platelets should take precautions to avoid injuries.

Neuropathy and Damage to the Nervous System
Cancer patients may develop neurological problems due to the cancer itself or caused by the chemotherapy. A variety of problems can develop, including altered mental alertness, changes in taste and smell, seizures, and peripheral neuropathy (tingling and burning sensations and/or weakness or numbness in the hands and/or feet). Patients should discuss neurological symptoms with their doctor.

Heart Damage
Some drugs that are used to fight cancer, may cause serious damage to the heart. In these cases, the dosage is closely monitored in an attempt to avoid heart damage. Patients experiencing chest pain or any cardiac symptoms should seek immediate medical help.

Kidney Damage
A number of anticancer drugs can also cause damage to the kidneys. Some kidney problems can be lessened by having adequate amounts of fluids. A secondary danger of kidney damage is that a less functional kidney can be more susceptible to further toxicity caused by other anticancer drugs that the patient is taking.

Respiratory Problems
Cancer patients who have had radiation in the chest area are more susceptible to respiratory complications. Patients should get immediate medical assistance if they have difficulty breathing.

Sexual Function
Some drugs can lead to impaired sexual function and may result in the absence of sperm in a man and the lack of menstruation in a woman. Patients of child-bearing age are usually told to refrain from conceiving while undergoing chemotherapy because of the defects it can cause in the foetus.

Vision Problems
Some anticancer drugs can impact a person’s vision. Some can cause blurred vision in children, while others can cause cataracts. For example, Tamoxifen may be damaging to the retina, and cisplatin can damage the optic nerve. Conjunctivitis, commonly called pinkeye, is a treatable problem that occurs with many anticancer drugs.

Source: Vive Magazine.

23) I Hate Cancer!! - 2

This is an interesting video by my dear friend Alyaa Gad

I was looking for something like that long time ago - it's really useful.

* The more we spread the word, the better..*

P.S. If there is anything I hate in this world; it's Cancer!